You’ve just been asked to be the Maid of Honour—or maybe the Chief Bridesmaid—congratulations! These titles might have slightly different origins, but in the UK, they generally mean the same thing. You’re the bride’s go-to person, her organiser-in-chief, and her ultimate cheerleader.
But now what? Between planning an epic hen do and helping the bride keep her cool on the big day, there’s a lot to think about. Don’t worry—we’ve got your back with this guide to acing your role and creating unforgettable memories along the way.
The Hen Do: The Highlight of Your Role
Let’s face it, planning the hen do is the most exciting part of being a Maid of Honour (or Chief Bridesmaid). This is your chance to show off your creativity and give the bride a send-off she’ll never forget.
Here’s the golden rule: it’s all about her. Whether she’s into glitz and glam, something low-key, or a totally unique experience, you’re the one who will make it happen.
Why Not Try Something Truly Memorable?
For a hen do with a difference, how about a session at Coverstar Experiences in Liverpool? Gather the bridal squad and step into a professional recording studio to create your own group anthem. Imagine singing your favourite tunes, laughing together, and walking away with a recording to treasure forever. It’s the perfect mix of fun, bonding, and memories—and a great way to kickstart the party vibes!
Tips for Hen Do Success:
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- Consult the Bride: Some brides love surprises, but it’s a good idea to check in about what she’d enjoy most.
- Plan Early: Book venues and activities well in advance to avoid last-minute stress.
- Budget Wisely: Chat with the group about what everyone can afford. This avoids awkwardness later.
- Add Personal Touches: Whether it’s themed outfits, a bespoke playlist, or little surprises, make the day unique to her.
Maid of Honour vs Chief Bridesmaid: What’s the Difference?
In the UK, Chief Bridesmaid is the more common term, but you might hear Maid of Honour used, especially in American wedding inspiration. Traditionally, a Maid of Honour is unmarried, while a Matron of Honour refers to someone who’s married. However, these distinctions have largely faded, and the roles are essentially the same: you’re the bride’s right-hand woman.
Fun fact: there’s no rule that says a bride can’t have more than one Chief Bridesmaid or Maid of Honour. If she can’t choose between her sister and her best friend, for example, both can take on the role. Double the support!
Other Responsibilities of a Maid of Honour or Chief Bridesmaid
Beyond organising the hen do, your role extends to a variety of tasks before, during, and after the wedding. Here’s what you might find yourself doing:
- Bridal Party Coordination
You’re the link between the bride and the rest of the bridal party. This includes organising group chats, scheduling dress fittings, and keeping everyone in the loop about key dates and plans.
- Helping with Wedding Preparations
From wedding dress shopping to assisting with DIY projects or planning pre-wedding events, your support is invaluable.
- Wedding Day Duties
On the day itself, you’re the bride’s lifeline. Duties include helping her get ready, holding her bouquet during the ceremony, and ensuring she eats and drinks (wedding days can be hectic!).
- Giving a Speech or Toast
If the bride asks, you might need to prepare a heartfelt and fun speech for the reception. Keep it personal, upbeat, and not too long.
A Brief History of Bridesmaids
If you’re wondering why the Chief Bridesmaid even exists, let’s take a quick look at the origins of this age-old role. The role dates back centuries, with traditions varying across cultures:
- Protection from Evil Spirits: In ancient times, bridesmaids dressed similarly to the bride to confuse malevolent spirits or rival clans.
- Legal Witnesses: In Ancient Rome, weddings required ten witnesses, which is how the concept of a bridal party began.
- Biblical References: Stories like that of Leah and Rachel in the Bible also hint at the origins of bridal parties.
Thankfully, today’s Chief Bridesmaids aren’t expected to fight off spirits or legal disputes—just the odd pre-wedding hiccup!
Tips for Being the Best Maid of Honour or Chief Bridesmaid
- Stay Organised: Keep a checklist of your responsibilities and key dates to avoid last-minute panic.
- Communicate: Regularly check in with the bride to see how you can help and make her feel supported.
- Bring the Fun: Yes, your role comes with responsibilities, but it’s also about celebrating your friend. From hen do laughter to dancing at the reception, enjoy the journey with her.
And if you’re looking to add a unique touch to the hen do, don’t forget about Coverstar Experiences. Nothing says “unforgettable hen party” like belting out your favourite tunes in a professional studio with the people who matter most.
Here’s to being the ultimate Chief Bridesmaid and giving your bride the celebration of her dreams!
P.S…
Remember, you were asked to be maid of honour. Hand picked with love to take on all of the responsibility that comes with the role, so have the faith in yourself that your best friend has in you. As long as you’re working with best interests in mind and doing all you can, there’s not a lot of room for mistakes. Keep calm, be prepared, and just enjoy the big day! You can do it!
